Frustration
Apekchhya K.C
Pokhara

The actions of men are the best interpreter of their thoughts." Said somebody. I saw you perfectly clearly. You were walking in a magnificently beautiful garden.  You walked rejoicing under the arches of trees laden with fruits of gold. But suddenly, you took a different direction and you left the magnificent garden.

" I saw you then wandering in a dark, gray land, bathed in a thick fog. The effect is that you have been seriously polluted in  spite of you by the radiation of harmful negative waves. The negative waves of frustration which have lead you to downfall and deviations which have wasted your precious thinking, ability and attention which otherwise would have been used elsewhere in constructive or creative work. I know the frustration of your hopes and your troubles. The frustration which is caused due to the falsity and invidious position of the world. You felt like there's nothing left to pick you up back into the world. You must know that there is always an answer to those problems, but that every cause of a problem finds its own solution in a different way. There is no fear of tomorrow, for you know in advance what future holds for you keep living out your life as usual with very little hope of seeing any change. Let the oceans overflow to inundate you with joys and happiness,

Those negative waves called frustration is an emotion or the state of mind that occurs in situations where one is blocked from reaching a personal goal. The more important the goal, the greater the frustration. It is comparable to aggression. In some cases, it might lead to obsession or addiction. Frustration should be regarded as a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life, in order to regain balance, and when the individual is observed with open-mindedness and tolerance, his emotions may prove to represent problems in the society as a whole. Frustration occurs in a time where hope is lost where people wont find any way to get out of the problem and just walks in the darkness searching for the beam of light. Frustration leads a person to a total loss of control of mind.

Mostly our outbursts are the results of others behavior. When others behavior blocked or thwarted to reach the goal, frustration is the common reaction in such a situation. Unpleasant feelings or thoughts may trigger negative thoughts and memories leading to frustration. If there is injustice or unfair thwarting, frustration can become a powerful cause of aggression. Sources of frustration may be internal or external. Internal sources of frustration involve personal deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations that prevent one from reaching a goal. Conflict can also be an internal source of frustration when one has competing goals that interfere with one another. Direct provocation from other is also another source of frustration External causes of frustration involve conditions outside the person such as a blocked road or a lack of money or something else. There are different kinds of frustration which happens in human's life. Sexual frustration, education frustration, job frustration, family frustration and so on have been running along in the pathways of a person.

Like the law of physics, "To every action there is an equal but opposite reaction". It is said that the easiest way to find something lost around the house is to buy a replacement. Therefore for every kind of frustration, there are its own methods of dealing with it but in a different way. Passive aggressive behavior can be one way for the elimination of frustration. So we all should get dealt with every kind of frustrations that comes in our way rather escaping from it. The road to get success in life is dotted with many tempting parking places. Frustration, although quite painful at times, is a very positive and essential part of success. Life is not an easy matter... You cannot live through it without falling into frustration.